I’m feeling moved.

Last night I asked a simple question to visitors on my Facebook page: ‘When you think about being old, what are your three main concerns?’

I gave a list of eight to choose from. (You may view the post here).

I wasn’t sure if anyone would answer, but this morning the response has been overwhelming.

It tells me that growing older brings up uncertainties and worries for a wide range of people. For some, it is about memory loss; for others lack of support if they have no family nearby; for others fear of physical decline.

My generation has little to guide us into this foreign country called Old. All we have to go on is how our elder relatives did it. But who spoke about it, openly, and where was the research that tells of the hidden capacities that appear as we age?

 

 

What lies ahead?

 

Being born just ahead of the baby boomers, I have often felt like a scout, who goes ahead of the main pack to check out the territory. It’s a lonely position, yet it means that I am called to return and share what I have found.

This is why I wrote Growing into Wisdom about midlife, to give others the book I wish I’d had when I entered my fifties and felt disoriented by life events. It’s why I wrote Spirited Ageing, to share what I’d discovered about ways to maintain a balance between capacities that are diminishing and capacities that are increasing. Yes, increasing! And there are more of these than you might imagine.

The responses to my poll confirm that there are many people yearning for guidance and hope on this pathway into the unknown country.

 

 

Seasons of nature

 

As the season changes into autumn, you may feel a resonance not just with your own cycle as it turns from outer to inner, but also with a season of loss. Growth slows down, sunlight withdraws, leaves and branches fall. Autumn and then winter both remind us of the last stages of life.

Yet, if we follow the seasonal example, we see that the cycle continues. After winter darkness, light returns. Spring brightens the skies and warms the earth once more.

Ageing is also like that. Cycles continue and what seems lost may return in a new form. The death of a partner may open the door to new friendships. Letting go of a beloved home may lead to a new sense of freedom. Letting go of hoarded papers and objects brings in fresh energy. Children grow up and leave the nest, and then a new generation may come into your life – nieces and nephews, grandchildren, or the appearance of the child next door who loves to visit.

 

 

Cultivating Renewal

 

This is why I gave Spirited Ageing the subtitle ‘cultivating the art of renewal.’

Nature constantly teaches renewal. You are part of these cycles. You can learn to flow with them and take the support of the wheel of life. Even if each spring feels softer than the one before, yet it is still spring.

Take heart. The human soul not only renews itself constantly, but its power actually increases with age, even as the body declines.

Blessings through all seasons of life,
Juliet

 

While I enjoy the friendship of the seasons I trust that nothing can make life a burden to me.
— Henry David Thoreau

 

 

For guidance in aligning with the season of life that you are in, or about to be in, my Seasons of Life books are there to help you.

Growing into Wisdom will guide you through the significant midlife crossing that most people experience in their late 40s or through their 50s.

Spirited Ageing will take you into your 60s and beyond, and prepare you for a life-enhancing approach to growing older.