How to birth in a bumpy spring

by | Oct 1, 2020 | Seasons Newsletter | 0 comments

Pregnant in Paris: that was me in 1970, with not a female relative in sight.

How could I prepare myself to give birth to my baby?

I took refuge in books on natural childbirth. And that’s when I discovered that ‘transition’ is a critical phase in the birthing process.

When the time came and after twenty-eight hours of hard labour I plunged into transition, everything went haywire. I no longer knew who I was, where I was, or what was happening. The long process of dilation of the cervix had come to an end. The stage of pushing had not yet begun. I was told that to push too soon was the worst thing I could do. So here I was, tossed around in the space between.  I felt distressed and disoriented, completely lost despite all my preparations.

‘This is one of the most difficult phases of labour’, said Sheila Kitzinger, whose book was my favourite. She added, ‘This is the point in labour when you may forget that you are having a baby.’

What a remarkable thing to say! Do you know that feeling — of being so disoriented by change that you lose sight of what it’s all about, and the promise of delivery?

Fortunately, half an hour later something shifted, and I began pushing hard, entering into the next stage with great relief. But in transition I felt completely out of control.

This bumpy spring

Do you ever wish that transitions could be less bumpy — more gentle and predictable perhaps? Here we are in the midst of a seasonal transition, and it’s anything but smooth.

Is spring here yet?

It’s hard to tell. Now you see it, now you don’t. In this dance, or rather prance, winter seizes the ankles one day, pulling spring back into chilly blasts, and then a few days later, here is spring shaking off the interruption like a wet puppy and bouncing forward with a wagging tail.

Transitions, whether rough or smooth can be unsettling, bringing vulnerability and disorientation. Just as you become comfortable with one state of being, you are asked to move on.  And you don’t know where you are any more. Your patterns and habits have been disrupted. Sometimes you just want to dig your heels in and stay put.

Transitions, whether we like it or not, are always happening. Transitions are part of life.

What helps?

Childbirth instructors give breathing techniques. Another excellent strategy for any kind of transition is mindfulness: staying present, whatever the moment brings. And there is something else, that has supported people since ancient times.

Ritual provides structure, safety and solidarity. People have always ritualised the major transitions of life — and that includes the shifts between seasons: from planting to growing, harvest to fallow, or awakening to planting once more. Rituals bring families and communities together to dance, sing, join hands and cross the challenging thresholds of birth and death.

I describe such rituals in detail in my book Celebrating the Southern Seasons, which some of you know well. At Matariki, Maori welcome in a new year.  At Te Koanga they plant kumara with rituals of chanting and offering. At Samhain, the Celts lit bonfires to light the way into the dark of winter. At winter solstice, communities throughout Europe enacted fire ceremonies to align with the birth of the sun, almost as if not to notice, not to welcome in the sun’s return, might make it go away.

Why is ritual important?

Ritual can ease disruption by attending to your need to release, honour and move forward. In addition, ritualising your losses, joys and transitions opens you up to the spiritual dimension of life. To be held in sacred space during times of grief can bring comfort, safety and a strengthening of trust. In times of joy, sacred holding allows the heart to open to the heights of ecstasy and wonder.

Rituals for creative work

When beginning each work session on a creative project, rituals of entry help to open the heart and soul to what needs to be done. In my Spirited Living Mentoring group we begin each meeting  with a centering ritual to invoke spiritual energies and engage the heart. The six group members have found remarkable possibilities opening up as they too learn to find the practices that open them to the work and create a state of being that takes them straight into creative flow.

One space has now opened up in the group. If you have a dream that is knocking at the door of your heart, asking to be birthed, then here is an opportunity to commit to it with the full support of mentoring in the company of kindred spirits. You can check it out here:

Rituals are the sacred holders of your times of transition.

I wish you well with navigating this time between spring equinox and Beltane.



PS if you would like help with rebalancing and aligning your energies with the flow of growth that lies under spring turbulence, The Spring Attunement will help you.

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